Jessica Frew

Are you living in a world of judgment? Do thoughts run through your head like… you “should” have accomplished something by a certain age, you “should” have a partner, you “should” be this far in your career… sound familiar? Well, the truth is, “should” is a word we need to retire yesterday. The truth of life is that you are an utterly unique person with valid, lived experiences and you have a right to live your life and make choices that are right for you… no “shoulds” allowed. Too often we let society give us the side-eye when we make choices that stray from the so-called “norm.” We grow and evolve as human beings, and the things we decide for ourselves at age 25 may not be the same at 40. And that’s totally okay. In this heartfelt talk, I’ll address how to silence the “shoulds” we tell ourselves and the “shoulds” we also get from those close to us. When we live boldly, we have peace within and we can confidently tell all the “shoulds” to stay in their lane.

When we are young, we may dream of one day being married. And then when we do walk down the aisle, we feel like one of our cherished childhood dreams has come true. The trouble is, when we suffer a partner's betrayal, such as a husband coming out, emotional and sexual infidelity, or any other kind of deception… that dream of romantic bliss and security crumbles before our very eyes. Even so, we can then go into a state of denial, similar to the stages of grief. We tell ourselves unrealistic things like, “I can change him” or “I can deal with this “new normal” in order to preserve our relationship and family” even though we know deep down that none of these things are true. Here are the most common reasons why women feel compelled to stay married, such as preserving the family they’ve built with their spouse, staying married for the kids, and other fallacies that deny basic truths about healthy marriages and family relationships.

Do you remember that line from the movie Forrest Gump, the one where Forrest says, “My Mama always said you had to put the past behind you, before you can move on.” Turns out, Forrest’s Mama was right. In order to grow into the best version of yourself, you have to heal the parts of you holding you back from realizing your full potential. This means making peace with those who hurt you, including a current or past partner, your parents, and most of all, yourself. Let me show you how you can take those first steps towards finding and healing the brokenness within, and releasing the feelings that no longer serve you. Because the truth is, you deserve llove, peace and passion in your life… not a record on repeat of your most painful experiences.