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Protyus A. Gendher utilizes anthropological training, comedy, and poetry to explore and examine life experiences including their journey as a traditional surrogate, their extreme weight loss, their time spent homeless, and their moments as a non-binary parent.

Current position (1)

Writer

Dapkusenterprises

Degrees (1)

Anthropology/Psychology

University of Wyoming

2007 to 2012

Presentations

Presentations (4)

My Surrogacy and Body Commodification

Surrogacy and Body Commodification
1. Intro
a. Introduce myself
b. Traditional Surrogate 7 years ago
c. Parent of two at the time of the surrogacy and I really stumble over the question “How many children do you have”
2. What is Body Commodification?
a. Selling the body
i. Plasma, sperm, blood, kidneys, and much more exotic things.
b. Renting the body
i. Surrogacy, sex work, wage labor.
3. What is Surrogacy?
a. Traditional versus Gestational
b. Different models in the world/here
4. Legalities
a. Drafting the Contract
5. Our Surrogacy
a. Science in the home
b. Daddy got laid off
c. Monday night dinners
d. Ditched by my midwife
e. 34 weeks/Hello biomedicine
6. Labor and Delivery
a. Trial of Labor/Unsuccessful VBAC
7. Baby’s gotta eat
a. Adventures in exclusive pumping
b. Breast Milk Folk Names Index
8. Conclusion
a. Faery Tale
b. Q&A

Autoethnography of Homelessness

Autoethnography of Homelessness
1. Intro
a. Define Autoethnography of Homelessness
b. Picture of my world before going homeless
2. Events of going homeless
a. Loss of relationship income
b. Loss of educational income
c. Loss of child support
d. Loss of surrogacy income
e. Lack of support with a troublesome child
f. Looming eviction and a loose promise
3. Workload of Homelessness/Time Management
a. Workday 5am-2am next day
b. Being the store and Being the home
c. A sticky situation
d. Another sticky situation
4. Rehoming Yourself- Hiccups and Barriers
a. Finding and asking for help (performances of religion and groveling)
b. Living with a wild card
c. Working/finding jobs
d. Motel days- working, cooking, parenting
5. Forever Housing Insecure
a. It’s not “on-off” it’s “in-and-out”
b. When housing keeps falling though

Other Othernesses

Other Othernesses
1. Intro
2. Eternal Otherness
a. Fat Kid
b. Poor Kid
c. Bastard
i. Strict definition
ii. Later loss of family
d. Undiagnosed Autism
e. Religion/Spirituality
f. Queer
g. Agender
h. Communist
3. Evolutions of Otherness
a. As I age
b. As society changes
4. New Labels
a. From Bi to Queer (for me)
b. From bad Cis, to GNC, to Trans
5. Shelter Under the Trans Umbrella
a. Being enough/valid
b. Gatekeeping
6. Juggling Master Statuses
a. Otherness in conflict with my master statuses
7. Conclusion
a. Otherness in relation to normalcy is always changing
b. Poem?

The Social Loss of Weight Loss

The Social Loss of Weight Loss
1. Intro
a. Me. Fat Me. Skinniest Me. Current Me. Is this identity?
2. Weight is only one metric
a. Other Symptoms
i. Eyesight
ii. Headache
iii. Mental fogginess/memory
iv. Skin
v. Breathing
vi. Fatigue
vii. PAIN-Arthritis, inflammation, joint/structural
viii. PAIN- Internal, and bleeding
ix. PAIN-Mental
3. Finding Answers
a. How the food guide pyramid almost killed me
b. How food is addiction
c. How fat shaming made it worse
d. How my Fad chasing Family made Food scary and confusing
e. That one time I tried to go low fat
f. That one time my Dr. put me on speed
g. That couple of years I spent on speed after that
h. In America answers are for SALE
i. Atkins- or something close to it
i. South Beach was the other low carb diet of the time, but my body didn’t tolerate its leniency
ii. Felt better within days of trying it. EVERY time
4. Choosing myself-internally
a. Major adjustments in my idea of self worth
5. Choosing myself-externally
a. Implementing eating